I was reading Mitt Romney’s comments today about why he lost the election. According to him it’s because President Obama gave “extraordinary financial gifts” to Hispanic voters and other demographic groups.
This isn’t a commentary on the election but it is an observation about what makes people successful. I find that people who are successful in life become successful by identifying what they did that made them succeed in a specific situation and strengthening that. And, when they fail at something, they identify why they failed and work to correct that.
The unspoken (yet obvious) key to this is that you can only fix those things that you can control. You can’t fix something that you can’t control.
For instance, if your business is failing the problem that needs to fixed isn’t the economy. You don’t have any control over the economy so the best you can do is sit around and worry about how bad things are. There is nothing that YOU can personally do to fix it. On the other hand, you can fix your company’s customer service, marketing, sales, PR, etc.
In Romney’s case, he can’t fix the situation that he is identifying as his reason for failure. Whether it is true or not, it is totally beyond him ability to influence or fix “the problem.”
The problem with this kind of “thinking” is that you become the effect of the problem. You can’t do anything about it so you become the effect of it. You become less cause over your own life.
The reverse is true when you identify the true causes of your failure and then work to fix those. You gradually become more and more cause over your own life.